Life gets crazy sometimes and it’s easier to forget your dreams in the midst of it all. We move too fast, especially millennials, caught up in the unrealistic expectations of society. Trying to live a life of excitement and luxury to get enough double taps or a quick swipe right. With all the distractions it’s easier than ever to lose yourself. Eventually, living life in hyper-speed becomes exhausting and you’ll realize that you’re only human. Flawed and yet beautiful regardless.

Flawed because as humans, many of us (among other things)  underestimate the importance of mindfulness and self-care. Learning to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves both mentally, physically and emotionally. Becoming more conscious of our needs and being realistic in our wants. Understanding yourself is a part of… well, loving yourself. If you don’t find ways of practicing self-care then the relationship with your inner-self will suffer. Checking in with yourself is one of the best ways to connect with your own being.


It’s a little awkward at first but it’s simple. Check in with yourself as if you were someone else. How do you check in on family and friends? Obviously, I’m not suggesting that you call yourself on the phone or have an animated conversation alone over brunch. But it’s time to become the person who knows you better than anyone else.

Become Your Own Bestfriend

Why are your “Bestfriends‘” your bestfriends? Because they accept you and regardless of the relationships’ ups-and-downs you know you can count on them. They aren’t family but somehow they become family. Their friendship and advice is unconditional and for whatever reason, you both made the unintentional decision to choose each other. It’s time for you to start choosing you. No judgment, no bias or negativity. Accept yourself for the person you are past, present and future. 

Ask Yourself Questions and Answer them Honestly

You know that voice inside your head?…To be clear I’m not talking about a psychotic voice that tells you to do bad things, I’m definitely not qualified to help you there. What I’m talking about is the voice that sounds like you, or at least you think it’d sound like you. It reminds you to wake up in the morning because you hit snooze 3 times already or it keeps you up alnight with the relentless feeling of forgetfulness. Everyday that voice looks after you, it pushes you through a hard day and strangely enough keeps you sane. It’s time to start paying more attention to that voice and ask it some questions:

How are you? 

Are you Happy? 

Do you love the person you are? 


Be truthful, after all there’s no one to lie to but yourself. Stay open and honest, even if it hurts. Maybe keep a personal journal or diary where every thing that comes to mind is written and expressed on paper. If there’s something you don’t like, work on it. Push yourself to be better, do better. Always remember that you’re not perfect, no one will ever be. All you can do is evolve by learning from life’s experiences and staying true to yourself.


Have you checked in with yourself lately? Comment below to share how it went.