I’ll be the first to admit that I definitely don’t have everything figured out. I am an optimistic, creative and strong-minded woman but at the same time, I still have a long way to go. I lack relationship skills and I’m often socially-awkward. Preferring to keep my head in the pages of a book, living victoriously through fictional characters. I am an introvert who has always been surrounded by others but thrives from solitude. The older and closer I get to thirty the more I begin to seriously contemplate all the things I’m still figuring out.
Throughout various life stages, all of us have been asked a grand yet simple question, “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?“. During our teenage years, I’m sure most of us never took this question seriously. Personally, I never envisioned the future but somehow knew that everything I wanted would magically come to fruition. I’d live the lifestyle of an early-2000s popstar with a house that would rival those on MTV’s Cribs and everything I wanted as a kid would come to me as an adult. Then in college, my biggest dilemma was making the ultimate decision between studying or partying.
Gratefully with hindsight comes wisdom. When you’re younger the expectation of having it “all together” seems to be a foregone conclusion. Relationships, family and careers would mirror the perfect plot of a 90s sitcom. Most of us fail to acknowledge that life is filled with twists, turns, and thunderstorms. Even the best intentions and goals can take a can take a sudden detour.
Tips for the Millennials Still Figuring It Out
#1. Invest in Yourself
The best investment you can make is in yourself. Rather it’s taking a class, traveling or building a business, deciding to invest in yourself will always have a high return. As the years past by, a lot of us get caught up in the every day trivialities. Finding ourselves dissatisfied with life, stuck in an average 9 to 5 and barely scraping by. Choosing to make a conscious decision to invest in yourself is both rewarding and crucial for building a strong future.
#2. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
For most of us, our core group of friends and family have begun to branch out from us. The crazy kids we used to know are all getting married, having kids, traveling the world and building successful careers. Nowadays, as we stroll our feeds we mainly catch up through social media posts. We see their smiles, successes and a different life from our own. While it’s always a happy occasion to see others doing well we privately contemplate our own lives. Am I happy? Why do I feel so far behind? Once the doubts creep in an unconscious race begins, a race for happiness. Being able to celebrate the happiness of others without judging yourself will ease some of the pressures.
#3. Let Go of the Societal Expectations
There will always be a high level of societal pressures to live a certain way. Everyone else will voice their opinions on the things you should be doing. Even the people closet to you have a preconceived notion of what will make you happy. Being married and having kids before a certain age are only a few of the heavily weighted expectations. For some of us, the pressures from others can cause a negative feeling. It implies that what we have so far is not good enough and our previous goals should be placed on the backburner in favor of something more socially acceptable. What those people fail to see is that the way you should walk through life is none of their business.
#4. Focus On Your Strengths
Often enough we forget that our weaknesses and failures do not reflect our true self-worth. While it’s important to have a realistic understanding of your personal faults, it’s also vital to acknowledge your strengths. As someone who knows what it’s like to beat yourself up, I understand how easy it is to get consumed by the self-negatives. Instead of focusing on all the things that you don’t like, embrace all the things that you do. One of the major contributors to feeling as though you’re still figuring it out is when our strengths become unnoticed while our failings take center stage. Making more of an effort to accept those flaws while also celebrating the positives of both yourself and overall character. In short, celebrate the things that make you, You.
#5. Learn from Your Mistakes
There are things in my past as I’m sure in yours that do not paint us in the brightest light. But regardless of what they may be, we all have to learn from those mistakes. Accepting those mistakes and furthermore creating a plan so that it doesn’t happen again key. Taking a moment to admit, understand and accept the things that have gone wrong is apart of growing up and being mature. There comes a point where everyone realizes that they are not perfect and will never be so. Even the best-laid plans can fall through at the last minute and even the person with everything figured out doesn’t have it all together.
#6. Follow Your Passion
Maybe you’re an artistic soul who hasn’t had the chance to express your creativity in ages. Maybe you’re a writer who barely can find the time to well, write. Whatever your passion, the majority of millennials have forgone their talents in favor of more accepted life-paths. At this stage in life, it’s expected that our passions become hobbies instead of genuine careers. We get distracted, doing what everyone else tells us we should be doing instead of following the path you love. Whatever your passion may be it’s time to make it a priority.
I may have not gone where I intended to go but I ended up where I needed to be – Douglas Adams
We are all on own journey to figuring it out. Stay dedicated, focused and work hard towards the goals you want to achieve. Even if there are some setbacks and turns have faith that you will end up where you need to be.
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